Zozibini, Tumisho Masha’s wife, has decided to open up about her pain. She has taken to Instagram to reveal that she was in an abusive marriage with the actor.
She wrote a few days on the photo-sharing site: “Today a year ago I saw a huge change in my life. I had lost one of my closest friends, my mom was hospitalized and my absentee husband decided to yet again assault me.”
She said she hasn’t spoken publicly about these events and is now sharing her truth.
“I am an abuse survivor. I used to be an abuse volunteer. I was in a relationship, a marriage where I entertained abuse at all levels. I accepted a husband that would break me down in front of my baby, my family, his family, his friends and in public. I stayed with someone who would tell me in front of our baby girl that he was my biggest achievement in life and that no one can protect me from him. Someone who would shove me while I held our baby and drag me by my hair while she tried to hold on to my leg.”
She explained that she didn’t know her worth. “I was a volunteer. I’ve learnt that the only person that can get you out of such is yourself. Today marks a year of the day I became brave, the day I took steps to real self-love. It’s hard the truth is no one is one thing. He is not just abusive and I am more than a victim. “
In the post, Zozibini said she is learning to embrace herself and being kind to herself.
“I am learning to love myself. It’s hard, but I know it will be worth it. I have learnt not to put other people first anymore. In this journey, I have lost people I thought were friends, but they opted for an association with fame as opposed to telling the truth. I have found it liberating to truly know who my friends are.”
She then went on to say that abuse is society’s issue. “We tolerate abuse. We tolerate abuse because it’s my son, it’s my brother, it’s my cousin or it’s my whatever. The healing needs to start in your family. It needs to be unacceptable at all levels. It needs to be spoken against while we are still alive, not over our dead bodies. I’m doing this healing thing the best way I can and living the truth that I am good, I am important and I am loved.”
In an interview with Sunday World last year, Tumisho has since denied that he abuses his wife but confirmed that he had obtained an interim protection order against him and said he would oppose it in court.